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The Surprising Truths Every Stepparent Needs to Know

The Surprising Truths Every Stepparent Needs to Know

By Katherine Schwarzenegger Pratt
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Katherine Schwarzenegger Pratt and child psychologist Ashley Graber on the lessons that make all the difference for blended families.
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Like parenting, step-parenting doesn’t come with a manual. But unlike parenting, your role is often much less defined.

I feel very lucky that I get to experience both step-parenting and parenting. One of the best decisions I’ve made was seeking out the help and guidance of a step-parenting therapist, whom I sit down with in this episode: Ashley Graber, LMFT. Together, we talk about a role that so many of us are navigating and one that often comes with more questions than answers.

Six and a half years into this journey, I’ve learned that being a step-parent can feel like parenting, assisting, supporting, and sometimes stepping back all at the same time. I’ve also learned that there just aren’t enough resources or real conversations out there for those of us in this role.

That’s why I opened up the conversation to my BDA Baby community—and I’ve never received more questions for a single topic.

Ashley and I dive into the big and most commonly asked topics: discipline, defining your role, communicating with co-parents, and the emotional gymnastics of blending families. We talk about the importance of putting the child first, but also how to honor your own experience and feelings along the way.

This is a conversation I wish I could have listened to years ago, and I hope it offers support, perspective, and maybe even a little peace for anyone walking this path.

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